Feel free to move this to the philosopher’s cloud if it belongs there. I get philosophical towards the end.
A few nights ago I experienced the same, frustrating dream phenomenon that plagues my emotional life. That sounds really corny, but I’m not the only one who experiences this. Do you ever have a dream where one of the DC’s is someone you know from waking life, whom you’ve never had any feelings for (in fact, been completely indifferent to), only to wake up and be really attracted to them? It’s like something just clicks in the dream and it sticks. It’s happened to me a few times during my life. I’ve talked to others about the phenomenon, and almost all of them have had the same exact thing happen to them. This is different from those dreams about someone you don’t even know. Those have to be the strongest of the two (and most frustrating). What I’m talking about is someone you’ve met, or at the very least, seen in ordinary waking life.
In my example, I saw a girl in my ecology class only for a few seconds. She striked me as being very unique in her character, but I definitely didn’t have any feeling for her. Two nights later I had two long dreams with her in it. It wasn’t anything X-rated, we were just hanging out in some apartment with some other DC’s. I woke up from the second dream, and it hit me immediately upon waking up. That was two days ago now. I thought to myself this morning that she would probably look completely different than my dream memory of her, since I had only seen her for a few seconds in WL, and my DC’s are very rarely accurate representations. Today I had the same class, and I saw her. She looked EXACTLY like my memory of her in the dreams. It was actually pretty spooky… I thought for sure I was dreaming.
To me this is striking proof of the deep connection between our emotions and our dreams, and the profound control our dreams have over the qualities of our waking consciousness. There’s nothing more personal than our emotions, and in my opinion, nothing more influential to our decisions and actions we take in daily life. This is really starting to get me to think. I think it may be possible that the mind doesn’t fully process all the input and information during “waking” life, and we rely on our dreams to incubate the emotions and ideas, to tie all the ends together. This could have profound implications… and yes, I know this is no new idea. It brings to mind the many philosophers who believe man’s greatest achievements have their origins in our dreams. This is open to interpretation.
Please don’t infer that I’m saying dreams act as a sort of channel or gateway to another reality, but I do believe I was closer to reality during my dream about the girl than during that first time I saw her in class. The truth is, I was in love with this girl from the start… I just didn’t know it.
I have. I’ve dreamt about some people in my church, and the next time I see them I realize that I love them. The thing is, some of my dreams have been sexual, I haven’t loved anyone at church sexually yet.
I think that dreams can show a different side of someone that you normally won’t see in real life unless you got to know someone for a few months. Perhaps seeing them in that different light causes you to realize that you love them.
Ive fallen in love in many Dcs and this feeling stayed with me…sometimes for longer ,sometimes just for a day.Its very nice and good but frustrating at the same time.
Sometimes similar things happen with things of desire-i.e car,house etc.
That’s a good point, I didn’t realize the infatuation was not sexual until you said this. This seems always to be the case in these situations. It’s definitely a deeper attraction. I agree dreams seem to let us see people in a new light without the experience of being acquainted with them.
As far as the attraction lasting for only a few days… well I plan on putting that to the test.
Hivemind brought up an intersting point, where in dreams you often look at someone differently than you would in waking life. There’s a DC from 3rd grade that I fell in love with, though it was/is someone I don’t know. I’m still, to this day, trying to decide who he is.
But I’ve had other dreams where emotions have been so impacting that I’m still feeling them when I wake up. One particular example is a dream I had about one of my brothers who stole my parakeet (long story). Then towards the end of the dream, I knew he had it and he wouldn’t give it back, but he hit me (even though it didn’t hurt). When I woke up, I was so mad at him for stealing my parakeet! Even though I know it was irrational, I still felt that way for the rest of the day.
It’s stuff like this that makes dreams facinating. However, I’d be a little cautious if approaching this girl IRL. Your view of her in your dream will most likely differ from the person she really is. (Just a fellow girl’s advice )
I have experienced this a few times. I think this is along the same lines as obtaining what you think is very important information from a dream. It probably has a lot to do with how much a dream amplifies your feelings.
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