I am not sure if this counts as an “off-topic” type of thread, because it is related to lucid dreaming but that’s not really the main topic.
The thing is that I entered a program in Engineering Physics last year, and I noticed pretty quickly that several of my classmates seemed to like me.
The problem is that I had been very, very reserved for a few years at that point - basically, I pretty much never initiated any conversations with them and sometimes I even hesitated to say hi to them when I noticed them, but I always tried my best to be nice to them when they started talking to me.
However, I acted like this until perhaps in the middle of April this year, and by then it was pretty clear to me that a lot of my classmates had become more and more intimidated by me - they would give me a puzzled, stern look when they saw me and would seem pretty nervous around me, but at the same time they would often take the chance to talk to me if I was in an extra good mood.
Still, at this point I could clearly tell that I was considered “that difficult guy” in my class, someone that a lot of them were afraid to talk to since I had taken so little initiative myself (and yep, I had stayed away from every single “gathering” and party that they had arranged, except for those that took place in the very beginning last year right before the program had started).
It then occured to me that I could of course use lucid dreaming to practice these kinds of things, and arrange lucid dreams where I could actually practice approaching people, or even my actual classmates (as dream characters, of course).
So I made that my main intention and could easily stick to it, since it was very important for me to improve in this.
I eventually managed to get a few lucid dreams like this, and they gave me enough time to practice situations that were similar to the ones with my classmates - and I quickly noticed afterwards how much easier it became to be more “outgoing” around my classmates.
Of course I was still somewhat nervous, and I still had to make an effort, but my lucid dreaming practice had given me a great headstart and liberated me from the worst discomfort, so that now I could actually start conversations with my classmates and be fairly social around them - and it got easier and easier very quickly. and it started to feel amazingly natural as well.
And that, of course, was great.
The funny part about this, however, is that now it feels like a lot of them are even more puzzled and nervous around me nowadays, almost as if they are intimidated by me for not being reserved all of a sudden.
They don’t exactly seem “uncomfortable”, they just seem… clueless.
Of course, several of them have welcomed my social changes, but there are also those who seem very shy and careful.
And I don’t think I appear to be “overacting” or anything, because I am not even acting, I really do feel much more at ease with them and I can start conversations with them and whatnot much more easily than just a couple months ago.
My question here is, do you think that I have changed “too quickly” from their perspective?
I mean, most of my classmates probably have no idea about the potentials of lucid dreams (the use of lucid dreaming for self-development is not exactly general knowledge ), so it might appear strange to them that I have been able to change this rapidly.
Some people on other forums have even said that it might appear that I am mano-depressive, but I am not sure if I would agree about that.
What are your thoughts on all of this?