love crisus

what do you do when you love someone and have loved that person for a while and you know that if you told them it could not only have an odd effect on your relationship with that person but it could also effect your family.

see this will sound really odd to some people here but I love this girl a lot who is in my family. We are not blood, but have been in the family for like 8 or 9 years now. She means so much to me, she’s like my best friend (she is my best friend) and I love her. She is bi just like I am, but she has made little jokes before about how it would be odd if we did anything cause of how we are cousins, I would usually reply with something like well it’s not like we are blood, and she would come back with something like well yeah but we are like sisters and so much a like. so i just shut up and laugh along with her. but inside it’s hurting me. I never really thought I was the type who would be bisexual, and now just over the last year I have become like that because I am falling in love with her. it’s not like a sexual attration, it’s like love, love is the only word I can use to discribe it.

it’s tearign me up inside.
any opinions or thoughts?
thanks you all.
BD87

Idk BD, I know you’re young but maybe you should slow down? What happened to the guy from your last post?
Anyway if it is really driving you nuts just say something. Tell her you don’t want to ruin things but she is your best friend if you can’t tell her who can you tell? It may put a rift between you two if you don’t tell her.

I really love conversations like this (and not for the reason that everyone is thinking). Technically speaking, everyone on the planet is related. So where do you draw the line? That’s up to you.

BD87, what type of activities do you get involved with. Love is just one of the many emotions that you can experience.

Not that I’m insensitive to your feelings. But isn’t this the 3rd or 4th you’ve had something for in the last 3 months? This goes to show that you don’t know what you want.

IMO, you need to first know yourself and what you want before you try to find it in someone else.

From your posts, you are a really caring and loving person. And you deserve the best of whatever you find. So have fun, get involved in other things and don’t get caught up trying to find something that you have within yourself in someone else.

People always find things when they’re not searching for it.

Exactly my thoughts. BD, you remind me so much of a girl I used to know who thought she was in love with almost every guy she saw (though she wasn’t bisexual). Reality was, she didn’t really care about any of them. She just built it up and built it up until it became such an issue to her she couldn’t talk about anything else. Every guy she went out with, she dumped within days. And there were a lot of them.

Admittedly I don’t know you, so I can’t accurately guess the situation, but based on your posts over the last month or so, I’d say that you’re in love more with the idea of love and drama more than the actual people. It just sounds to me like another infatuation which you’ll soon get over.

Hmmm…no…i dont really agree with posts above because when i was same your age and way later( im still similar in a way but i appreciate stable relationships more).Of course you dont know what you want but gods, who knows really? We learn whole life, we change partners, ideas.
You fall in love easily- same here.And everytime you feel its deep and overhelming- same here.Its the need to love, the drive inside that pushes you to change your partners everytime you think you have found someone better.
Its also the need to boost your self esteem- who does not like all that compliments, fascination in the eye of other person?And you`re hungry for it.
Its all fine and it will be happening till a) you find a person who will be matching you in extremelly good way and you stay there longer
b) someone who you love deeply dumps you( and i swear you dont want it)
Then realization comes that it is not only a game to play, not only fun and not only pleasures.It is also very serious comittment- living through pain of loosing the person you love is in my opinion the hardest in life.
At this point you will be much more carefull before you go into any relationship because you will be aware of how many implications it brings.

Sorry for making it so long.I also may be mistaken and you`re totally different person and dont get what this mad Jack is writing here at all:)Possibile- just felt i share.

Anyway- i dont have advice for you because no one can give you one.Listen only to yourself cuz only you will be the one who gets the prize or pain.And only you know how deep your feeling is.Only thing that i would do in your place is to wait a bit.Give it few weeks:)
Good luck

That’s all fine and dandy. But isn’t finding someone “true” mean the end of looking for something better?

And if she hasn’t found it, does she even know what she’s looking for?

I think BD87 needs to let things grow. She needs to let her feelings flower. You pick a fruit too soon and it will be no good.

In my opinion “someone true” exists in more than one person.
Everything changes and we change.What was true yesterday does not have to be today- we gather new informations, get new ideas, etc.
I could never honestly say to anyone that ill be with her/him forever.I want it- but i cant swear i will.Only thing to do is to make sure that time while being togheter is used in best possibile way.
She does not know what shes looking for, of course.But this is the way to learn it- all she needs to remember is that we all have feelings which are easy to hurt.And to use protection:)

Lol, thanks Jack, have been to lazy to think of a sig for some time now

In my experience, it takes trial in error in relationships to find out what you believe to be true love. You’ll notice it, because it stands out from the rest.

Love is such an over-used term these days, anyway.

Tapir- i admire your taste:)