Thanks for this post, Rhewin!! I am very new to this topic, and when I looked at those “WILD rules” stated here on the forum, I felt very uncomfortable about them, because they did not seem logical to me. Just exactly what you said: I cannot sleep on my back, and even if, I could not dream long enough as my wife would give me a knuff as I start snoring then.
Same applies for everything you said… I also mixed mantras and counting to stay focused, and I even leave my eyes open if forcing my eyelids shut feels uncomfortable. Your eyes close automatically if you fall asleep, but I think having darkness around you helps.
As a result, I had my first feeling of success in WILDing last night. It was not yet an LD, but it started to come out right. This was the second(!) night trying and I simply did it “my way”.
By the way, I had another Idea, which seemed to work for me: When certain things make you lucid or keep you lucid, why not “embed” them into the focusing.
Instead of counting I tried to imagine how I look at my hands, how I rub them, and how I swirl around. When I “fall” into a dream, why not in a way that makes it lucid and stable right from the start…