Subconscious wakes me up when I try to take control?

Okay, so I’ve a slight problem here that I don’t know how to solve, and I’d really appreciate it if you guys helped me out n.n;

I don’t have a problem with lucidity - before I even came across the concept of lucid dreaming, I did it unconsciously. I mostly realize this by signs in this dream that are unreal (for instance, I made up a new bathroom in my school the other night with a whole shelf dedicated with various fruit bowls with plastic fruit in it - of course it doesn’t exist in real life, which caused me to realize that it was a dream).

However, I’ve a few problems with controlling my dreams.

  1. I can’t seem to remember what I’m supposed to do once I’ve LD:ed. (My goal is to create my fic-verse and then let my subconscious do the rest so that I can gain inspiration for my fic.) I’ve a vague memory of wanting to take control, but my subconscious always throws me off by making sudden things happen so that I lose focus - like the other night, I was suddenly presented with the fact that I had to hold a speech in front of our whole school, but I didn’t have a speech. That made me focus on making a speech instead. Two nights before, I had even gone as far as to construct a door to lead to my fic-verse, but then the mafia called me and said they had captured my best friend, so I had to rescue her in the current dream-verse I was in. Then I forgot about my goal.

  2. If I do remember, my dream collapses the instant I try to take control. In another dream, once I was lucid, I remembered my goal and tried to build my fic verse. The buildings surfaced but all of a sudden, somebody yanked the carpet away underneath me (there wasn’t even a carpet there before) and I started to fall backward. Even though the buildings continued to rise, everything around me descended into this free-fall that made me ‘fall’ back into reality.

  3. I tried to WILD a few nights ago. It all went pretty well. I got into this semi-dream state (I think it’s called HI?) during which I was in a ‘portal’ of sorts. I was at a skating rink I had constructed, and I knew I wasn’t fully asleep yet. There were different mirrors around the skating rink, and I told myself they were portals into different dreams. I was with a DC who told me he was going to teach me how to control my LDs and guide me into the dream I wanted to, when all of a sudden, another DC approached me. “Crap,” he said and tried to steer me away, but she was faster. “It’s the Queen.” She walked forward to me and then, with a single push, I flew backward into a portal that’d take me back to reality and I woke up.

Anybody who knows how I should prevent this? I mean, it’s not exactly a nightmare, so it’s not like I can face it the same way I do with nightmares (I’ve seen some methods here, like going forward to embrace whatever frightens you and stuff like that…). For the most part, I even have trouble focusing on my task at hand. But what’s with my subconscious trying to stop me? And how do I stop my subconscious from stopping me??

Thanks in advance!

From what I understand, your subconscious is very resistant to you wanting to LD. It may see LD’ing as unnatural, foreign, or perceive it as threat, etc. The way that I know how to overcome resistance from the subconscious is to use autosuggestion. Tell yourself during the day, and especially before you go sleep, that you will lucid dream. I’m not sure if you’re familiar with MILD, but it’s an autosuggestion technique that focuses on using a mantra such as, “When I’m dreaming, I’ll realize I’m dreaming,” in order to become lucid.

Also, it’s important to stay motivated. It sounds like you have a pretty solid goal in mind, so that makes LD’ing much easier, but it’s vital to actually believe that you will LD and will control your LD’s.