I would like to point out something very important.
Rhewin, you mentioned the problem, that many people don´t want to work so much for LDing.
I have to admit, that this is exactly my problem, too.
Yes I would really like to have many LDs and deep down I KNOW its great an I have to stick to it, but.
- LDing gets harder, the more doubts you have.
- LDing gets harder, the smaller the part of your mind you have reserved for it is.
- LDing gets harder, the more stress it is to integrate things like writing in the DJ etc. in your daily life.
The result theese points is: You have to tidy up your life. Dont go to bed to late, dont play computer till you go to bed, dont think at twelve or sth. " Hm I should do some LD related things now and then I will go to bed (-> you will go to bed at one or two and that`s not good)
Also, you need to have enough time in the Morning, so you can wake up slowly and have time to remember and write your dreams (what may take more than half an hour if you write details and not only some keywords) . This means: DO NOT GO TO BED TO LATE. Also avoiding alarms would be better.
Also make LDing part of your life in general. Like your hobby that you do for about 10 years now is always present in your mind.
If I would do all this things, I know, LDing would come to me. Maybe not every night, but more and more and it would be great.
But to do all this things, I would have to tidy up my life, to change my life consequently, stop being lazy all the time and stop to spend my evening in front of the computer because i
m (")exhausted("). Also I personally would have to make a deal with my parents so they don´t disturb me because I hate to hear them coming in my room when i am meditating or sth. ( In fact I still have not told my father about LDing, only my mom and I think she has already forgot about it. Because of this I do LD related stuff only when they go to sleep what does not help with " dont go to bed to late" )
And when I do not go for it and clean my lazy lifestyle, LDing will always be hard and a lot of work. it is a vicious circle when I don`t do it really, because small success leads to more doubts and the doubts to less success and less motivation.
I think this a main reason why many people give up after the first boost of motivation is fading. Also when you have been sticking with it for some time, this problems can make you stumble. ( I started LDing little more than one year ago and since summer holidays, I gave it up a little. Before autumn holidays I came back with new motivation because as I mentioned, I feel that LDing is something i want, I took part in the ND Challenge, but circumstances were bad and it soon went to the dogs again. Now I refuse to give up and start to slowly get back to it and be serious about it.)
Ah— and… It`s after twelve o clock again
Just as described.
Rhewin thanks for the topic it helped me because it made me formulate some things I would not talk about otherwise.
haha wall of text. Im sorry.