AAAARRRRGHHH!
/me shrieks in repulsion.
Never, EVER say something like that, EVER again. Lucidity is only as hard as we make it to be. I hope you realize the connection between the two phrases of yours I’ve quoted.
Actually, one thing that has to be figured out is that most of the time, we are trying our best not to be lucid. Think about it for a moment, when you are in a dream, instead of flailing around, and being dragged into every single little event that takes place, talking, doing, battling, fishing. what if you stopped for a moment instead, and just paused your thoughts? I wouldn’t be surprised if you realized that very moment it was a dream, in fact that’s a way I’ve gotten lucid myself more than once.
One has to realize it has actually to stop struggling in order to become more lucid. Stopping being dragged away by the flow of whatever happens around, and just learning to keep centered, and at peace, an active observer, but still an observer. That way it becomes much easier to recognize what you’re doing, and if you’re finding yourself in a dream or not.
With hope you’ll find more confidence in yourself. 
yep2yel, remember that a technique is just an instrument, and that becoming lucid depends ultimately on you. So be confident you’ll make it, and go to bed full of hope ^^ also, placebo effect is kind of the main thing that works here 
, since the whole thing is taking place in your mind, and if your mind is convinced you’ll make it, the chances pretty much raise a great deal 
As for the lucid fading, you’ll have to learn how to stabilize a dream. You can have a read at the “Prolonging LD’s” guide we have here, or at the first part of the DCTC I have in my sig. Good luck to you. 