I just stumbled upon your site the other day while running through a fitness website. They mentioned Lucid Dreaming as a way to meditate, then pointed to this site.
I can’t believe what i’m reading to be honest and just wanted to chime in and speak to like minded people here in order to share experiences.
I’ve not being trying long, but I’ve been basically trying to implement the MILD technique, but being a father of two, this can be difficult at times. Sometimes, by the time I’ve woken up, I don’t want to wake my kids up and give my wife a hard time before I go to work. I don’t get to fill in my dream diary, but I do actively try to recall my dreams.
It’s a weird feeling, i’m not sure how other people perceive “normal dreams” but to me, its more of a retrospective experience. Kind of like, I “did” do that, or I did “experience” something, but its more like it was in the distant past, it seems grey, monochrome, muddled, and even though I know I had an elaborate dream, i can only remember parts of it, if I focus very hard on remembering the moment I wake.
I spoke to my wife about this, because she is into Reiki. She told me that when she dreams, the dream is no different than me and her talking together right now. She is in the dream, although she says she has no free will, its like watching a film to her. I was astonished to hear her dream experiences are that vivid. She was astonished to hear that mine are not like hers.
So, my question to you all is. How do you experience “normal dreams” and how do they differ to “lucid dreams”? I’m a pragmatic and evidence based person, even though i am spiritual at times, I like to see evidence and I have trouble internalising the notion that, a dream could be a real to me as I am typing on this keyboard now.
In my dream last night, I know a lot of things happened, some of them far fetched, but I can only recall a fraction of what happened, people I recognise. I don;t recognise motivation or the purpose for the things I’m doing in the dream. One minute I could be driving, searching for something. I feel that the drving was purposeful, but when I wake up, I cannot recall why. The dream seems like i didnt really experience it, like it is just a memory of something that never happened. not a tangible reality like you all describe over here.
On that, I really would like to have lucid dreaming as a part of my life. I have always been a day dreamer, creative and very inward thinking. I really live life in the present, and my mind wanders to fantasy land all the time. I’m going to continue with MILD every night, and my wife is going to teach me meditation through her Reiki studies.
I also have a great deal of trouble recognising that I am in a dream. I go to bed with the intention to remember, and I have been doing my Reality Checks daily. But my “dream self” simply does not even entertain the fact that I am dreaming. In fact, the dream does not feel in the present tense at all, when I wake up, I feel the dream was only ever a memory, and with that, I am unable to influence it because it didn’t happen in real time. It’s difficult to explain.
I just hope it happens for me, even if I have to wait. The stories of some people waiting years to experience this amazing phenomenon dampens my spirits somewhat.
Thanks for reading, i’d love to get a discussion going. Please feel free to come back with your thoughts and your experiences.
Edit: i wanted to add a couple of days ago I had a very vivid dream (the most vivid ive had) where I was ni my bedroom, in my bed, exactly as I had fallen asleep. But my wardrobe was on the ceiling. Instead of trying a reality check, I almost instantly knew I was in a dream, so i tried rubbing my hands together and throwing myself backwards, but I just woke up having had a normal dream. The sensation wasn’t as everyone says, it was very vivid, but didnt feel real at all.
So, do you think this was a lucid dream? I was using the SSILD method, I think im going to try and stick to that.