[center]Want to Better Control Your Dreams?[/center]
I think all of us, at some point, has understood the frustration for things just [i]not[/i] happening no matter how much you want it to in a lucid dream, often falling victim to losing lucidity as a result. I know I've definitely struggled with it and it definitely resulted in a lot of frustration from my end. So I thought it would benefit a lot of the new users here to post my experiences and what has worked and what hasn't.
A Guide to Expectation and Proper Reality Checks
What I’ve noticed is the biggest hinderance to lucid dream control (Especially for newcomers) is doubt. Dreams, being what they are, feed immensely on your imagination. This means that if you look up in the sky, expecting to start flying but you have even the slightest inkling that it won’t work? Trust me, it won’t. If you want to fully control your dreams, the first step is expectation.
For instance, have you ever seen a bird flying and wondered - even if for just a moment - what would happen if the bird suddenly perched on your shoulder? I’m a visually minded person so this goes on a little further into an image flashing in my mind for a split second of the bird actually flying onto my shoulder . In a dream, that split second image gets taken as an expectation - and the image then becomes reality. I’ve had a lot of dreams turn into nightmares because I tend to expect the worst and it will actually happen.
Applying this to lucid dreaming, you have to fully expect that something will happen. This is why, if you are doing reality checks - you have to expect the test to fail. While awake, you have to fully expect your finger to go through your hand or to be able to breathe while plugging your nose. Like tests in programming, reality checks are designed with the expected false outcome to fail. If it passes, and what is expected occurs, you know something is off. I can’t count the number of times I have had reality checks actually not work in dreams because of this principle. I have had times where I was not able to breathe through my plugged nose in a dream because I expected not to be able to.
Applying Expectation to Dream Control
Now that you have the basic principle of expectation down, you have to learn how to apply this to doing actions in dreams once you actually become lucid. The main thing you want to do now to supplement this expectation is to start simple. Don’t try to do anything to crazy like summon DCs (Dream Characters) until you are at a much more advanced stage of mindfulness and control, because the result is more often or not an empty husk (Practically a lifeless cutout) of the person you are trying to summon (I call these figures “Echoes” and I will discuss them at length in another thread).By trying to do things more above my skill level, I end up having to rely on the dream too much (i.e. asking the dream, relinquishing control, etc.) and things become much more difficult and I end up losing lucidity very quickly.
What I mean by simple is more like saying you want to do things that are more fluid and organic. Probably what works best for me is simply doing basic telekinesis because that is an image and expectation very easy to reproduce. The next step up from that would be flying, which has many more variation and personal preference attached to it. I would say just to follow whatever method you feel most comfortable with and are most able to confidently visualize (Some like the iron man or superman method, I personally just prefer to glide or float like a fish).
Since I’m huge into cartoons and anime, I can even supplement the actions further by using what I like to call “call-phrases”. This is basically a fancy way of saying something similar to what anime characters yell before unleashing their big attack. Since it’s something so rooted into my waking life, it’s easier to visualize and confidently use in a dream. For instance, in a lucid dream I had just a week ago, I actually successfully locked a door about 10 feet away from me by just reaching my hand out and firmly saying “lock”.
I really hope that helps any new people who are going through the same frustrations I did in my early days of lucid dreaming - PM me or post here if you have any questions!