Dreaming about bathrooms and attractive women

Rodrigo · February 22, 2015, 4:49pm

I’ve noticed a strange trend in my dreams, lately. In recent history, several of the dreams I have with interesting, attractive women involve bathrooms.

Often, either I get confused and get in the wrong bathroom OR they are mislabeled.

I’m not sure what to make of it, and I am aware of some of the psychological implications of these symbols but I’d really appreciate it if you guys could help me shed some light on this.

My SC also seems to be fixed on Suicide Girls and/or punk-rock girls. Huh.

Some examples (only the relevant parts, so the post won’t be too long):

Rodrigo:

September 13 - ND - Snow Lion
I’m basing this description in the little recall I have and on some badly scrawled notes I wrote down in the morning.
[ND]I was traveling with two girls, one of them was a blonde, and the other was possibly F. It seems I was dating both of the girls, or at least F, though not in the ordinary sense. We’d just hang out a lot, mostly to have each other’s company, and it would be mostly platonic. We were currently in another country, a really cold, snowy place. I was doing all I could to stick together to F, and it was working somehow.

There’s a vague part in which I used the women’s bathroom, apparently by mistake. Someone (the blonde girl?) says “I can see you are a really special boy”. It seems there was a printer in the bathroom(?).[/ND]

Rodrigo:

October 28 - ND - Bathroom Redhead
[ND]This was apparently part of a bigger dream. I’m in an indoors area, looking for a bathroom. I approach two bathroom doors, but the signs are confusing. I can’t seen to make sense of either, so I decide to simply one of the doors. The whole decoration here was bizarre - all the walls had golden, brown and black wallpapers with endless arabesques and drawings of all kinds. What surprises me the most, though, is who I find inside the bathroom: there is a thin, tall - she is at least as tall as me, if not taller - beautiful girl in her twenties. She wears skin-tight light clothing, some kind of beige jumpsuit. Her hair is red, cut really short, and she was so beautiful that I was stunned. Her stare is intense - she reminds me a little of L - and her smile is to die for.

I am about to tell her that she is in the wrong bathroom when she points at the wall. It takes me a moment to realize she is pointing at the drawings. The old, tacky wallpaper showed only women in old-fashioned dresses against a brown backdrop. I quickly realize that it was an indication of what bathroom that was. I apologize and leave. The redhead just smiles.

As expected, there was another door. I walk in, this time sure that I’m headed to the right bathroom, but much to my surprise there is the redhead again. She smiles at me and then laughs at my surprise. I had no idea how she did that trick, but we end up talking and flirting a lot. I don’t remember many details after this, but it felt good.[/ND]

Rodrigo:

February 22 - ND - Recruiting Suicide Girls
[ND]I’m traveling abroad to an English-speaking country. Mind you, I believe all the dialogs in this dream were really in English. In any case, I was staying in this pretty large apartment (? or house?) with dozens of girls from the Suicide Girls site. All of them gorgeous alternative models and I was thrilled and stunned just of being near them. And there were so many! I don’t think I ever saw that many women in the same place at once in an apartment, let alone so many cute ones.

The thing was, they proved to be weird. As I wander around the house, they just sit around on chairs and pillows, staring blankly, or sleeping. I don’t remember seeing most of them even move. I tried to ignore that, though. At some point, I had to go to the bathroom, so I ask someone where I can find it. Someone points me the way (who?) and I find two doors which weren’t clearly labeled.

I wander in the first one, which is as spacious as the apartment, and like in the other there were dozens of girls just sitting around. I figured that was the ladies’ room, so I head to the other door. This other bathroom is empty. I walk up to a sink and start washing my hands when I hear a noise in the back. I stare that way to see a naked girl stepping out of the shower, her back turned my way so she didn’t see me. That confused me - were both bathrooms the “wrong” one? Another girl left a shower, making it clear that I was in the wrong place. It seems they didn’t really seem to care - I guess I was worrying more than they were, but in any case I left.[/ND]

Rodrigo:

January 1-2 - ND - Exposed
[ND]I’m indoors, in a large space. I walk a lot, for a long time, and finally get to a place where I can take a shower. I’m in a huge glass box, taking my shower, when suddenly my brother barges in the bathroom, opening a huge door. Right behind him was a group of girls of all kind - at least 10 or so, and he had just exposed me naked to them.

Some of the girls I knew (I believe A, for example, was there, and possibly M too), but most were unknown. I’m confused and a little shocked, so I get embarrassed and cover myself. My brother explains that they meant to use the bathroom or something like that. I sit inside the box, covering myself, still embarrassed, but then I noticed something interesting: the girls wouldn’t leave. They wouldn’t react negatively, either.

They kept staring at me. To my surprise, they weren’t bothered or embarrassed by my naked body. While some simply didn’t seem to react, others actually seemed genuinely interested in what they were seeing. I look carefully at them for the first time and notice that some of them (like A) were wearing party dresses, and others were naked or partially naked. One of them was totally naked, and her hair style and tattoos made her look like one of the models from Suicide Girls. She had green (?) hair, small, slender body and huge tattoos. I could also see her nipples were pierced. At that moment, I desired her, especially by seeing she also wanted me. But I had to leave, unfortunately. But I really wanted to see her again.[/ND]

I woke up, wishing I could be back to that dream. And I did it.

LD - Find the Girl
[LD]I find myself lucid in the same place I was before - not the bathroom, but one of the corridors that led to it. I tried following the dream logic and walked through several nondescript rooms and corridors, trying to find either the shower room or the Suicide Girl I had a crush on. I was well aware that this was all a dream, and that she was one too, but I still wanted to meet her.[/LD]

Fragment - Corridors
[ND]Eventually, I would lose lucidity and wake up. Whenever I fell back asleep I would have short, confusing dreams still taking place in the same area.[/ND]

I do understand the symbolism on “Exposed”, for example, which to me seemed like the clearest “evolution” my SC could have had about that matter, but frankly I don’t understand why the symbols were back this night, and the changes in the symbols were at least confusing to me.

Letaali · February 22, 2015, 5:46pm

Interesting dreams. I have no idea what it means though. If I had a recurring dream about something, I think that I would need to figure out it’s meaning on my own. The dreams are created by my mind. My knowledge, memories and feelings are what influence the dreams and thus I should have the best idea what they mean.

I guess it could be something you are only aware of subconsciously. If that’s the case then you could find the answer while lucid, right?

Rodrigo · February 22, 2015, 11:53pm

I suppose so… It’s odd because I often have a clear idea of what the symbolism behind my dream mean or at least refer to, but this time it’s taken me down a strange path. I’ll get lucid and find out more about it

Susan_Y · February 24, 2015, 2:15pm

Well, those are basically sex dreams -I guess you like punk girls.

There’s often a voyeuristic/exhibitionistic aspect to people’s dreams, where the unconscious gets to act on desires that are forbidden in waking life: spy on a girl in the bathroom, have a girl see you naked… So maybe that’s it.

Maybe also there’s an aspect of uncertain identity in some of those dreams, where you’re not sure what gender you are in the dream. It’s common for people to be become a different character in dreams (different age, gender etc.) Hence anxiety along the lines of: what gender am I in this dream, and what bathroom am I supposed to use?

[Although many psychologists are cricitical of Carl Jung and Jacques Lacan for not being very scientific, there an idea in psychoanalysis that might be relevant here: that in waking life, we are socially constrained to act out assigned gender roles, and personal characteristics that don’t fit are pushed down into the unconscious. (In this psychoanalytic model, everyone has some aspects that don’t fit, their assigned gender role, not just transgendered people. Similar kinds of things have also been said by a ton of feminist writers).

Rodrigo · February 25, 2015, 10:30am

Yeah, that does make sense, though the bathroom figure still puzzles me a little.

Susan_Y:

Maybe also there’s an aspect of uncertain identity in some of those dreams, where you’re not sure what gender you are in the dream. It’s common for people to be become a different character in dreams (different age, gender etc.) Hence anxiety along the lines of: what gender am I in this dream, and what bathroom am I supposed to use?

[Although many psychologists are cricitical of Carl Jung and Jacques Lacan for not being very scientific, there an idea in psychoanalysis that might be relevant here: that in waking life, we are socially constrained to act out assigned gender roles, and personal characteristics that don’t fit are pushed down into the unconscious. (In this psychoanalytic model, everyone has some aspects that don’t fit, their assigned gender role, not just transgendered people. Similar kinds of things have also been said by a ton of feminist writers).

This does make sense, I guess. It’s funny to think about it that the reasoning, if that is the case, happens on a purely symbolic level. It’s usually “the dream” that leads me to be confused. I get in the “wrong doors”, or both are wrong… It does say a lot, when thinking within that context. Thanks for the feedback

Squire_of_Saskatoon · April 10, 2015, 4:09am

I’m a bit too tired to think straight, so I can’t give an adequate answer at this time, but I just wanted to mention that I’m on here tonight because I was looking at an entry in my old dream journal and trying to analyze it. The particular dream that I’ve been analyzing involved going into the wrong bathroom.

I’m going to think about this, but if you get any more insights, I’d be glad to compare.

Squire_of_Saskatoon · April 17, 2015, 12:42am

After obsessing over my old dream for about a week, here’s what I think going into the wrong bathroom meant for me. Take what you will from my experience.

First, there were two instances of this happening in the dream. The first was when this girl I was dating in the dream accidentally went into the boys’ room (I remained outside until she came out). The second was when I went into the girls’ room, with full knowledge of which bathroom I was going into.

Now, there’s an element of transgressing a boundary, in either case, but much more so in mine (as opposed to the girl’s). I think Susan_Y’s comment about identity confusion is on the right track with respect to my dream, but there’s another element: entering into a woman’s world (and vice versa). Especially in the context of sex, relationships, and intimacy, there’s this ideal of “becoming one with your partner,” to the point that, especially towards the end of the dream, it was hard for me to tell who was doing what to whom. For me, there was also a question of just how deep one travels into the bathroom―the deeper you go, the more intimate the connection.