Dreaming location old home.

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It’s not often I have dreams that are local in places that I know in real life, but a question I have always wondered is why is that when I do dream of life locations, It is either at my grandparents house, or the house I used to live in long ago when I was very young.

I have lived in a new house, in a new location for 3/4 my life, and I can only recall a single dream, (other than FD’s, and that’s still not always the case) that was a very different type of dream. Not able to explain it, but regardless… Why does my real life dream locations always take place where I used to live, instead of now?

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Great question!

I experience this too—many dreams of my childhood home—and so do others. Sometimes, when I wake, I realize that the setting of a dream was in my childhood home with slight or heavy changes. It’s almost like my childhood home is the “stage” of many dreams and that different scenery is projected by mind onto this default stage.

There might be a simple cognitive explanation for this… Maybe our mental dream spaces get modeled early in our lives. As we grow, and age, the spaces are edited, but retain their basic shape.

Essentially, what I’m saying is, at least a part of dreaming could be memory-driven. Our minds, as they do whatever they do in dreams (store long-term memories, work out problems) could call up stock virtual spaces in which to place “us,” the dream ego.

Another explanation is that we’re emotionally invested in these places and so it’s natural that our minds re-create them in our sleep. People with trauma, like PTSD, often have the same dream, over and over. And often, they’re dreaming of a place as much as an event—the place where the awful thing happened, whether it’s literally like the real place in the dream or just somewhat like it.

In any case, these locations can be used as dreamsigns to spark lucidity. I’ve gone lucid before simply by recognizing that I’m in my childhood house.

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Ah. that makes sense. It’s like being taught something for the first time. Then later trying to be taught something different. You are pretty well attached to the first thing that you had learned. It’s easy to add new content involving learning, but overwriting previously learned ideas is more complicated.

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Hi
i too very frequently dream of my old house i lived in for the bulk of my childhood-teen years.
I believe in my case, i have ‘unfinished business’ from the past that I must be carrying around unconsciously . I think that these recurring dream scenes are being brought to the surface to get my attention be resolved eventually. Unfinished business is usually an emotion you have rejected or denied and the old scenes mark the approximate time point in your waking life that it occurred and or the place.or an old or outdated belief you hold about yourself that does not fit who you are today so its crying out for your attention.

The most annoying thing is that I can’t seem to become lucid even upon seeing the same old places that i have not revisited for 6+ yrs in waking life.
I’ve tried affirmations,auto suggestions, verbally and written for weeks and visualisations…
I’m not giving up yet but its sure trying my patience! !

Has anyone got any good tips for training ur stubborn zombie mind to notice these obvious symbols?

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To me there isn’t really much of a surprise. You do form your earliest and first most memorable memories in childhood which also means that you will remember places from your childhood in the dreams where you are reaching to the core of yourself.

You became and you were in that place, it meant everything to you, shelter, family, safe place - just enough to become permanent memory.

@ surrendertolove89:

The best way is to practice lucid living. Become aware of yourself and your surroundings and then this will not be a problem.

Also try to form your life and your living as far from the routine as possible. Routine is the silent killer of becoming lucid as in WL also in your dreams. I know it’s easier to said then do it but no one said it would be easy! :grin:

Good luck y’all! :content:

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Thanks for that, i think the routine part like you mentioned is what has been preventing lucid dreams, they used to come much easier. i havnt been able to go anywhere new for a year now after i got stranded out on my property which is quite isolated after my partners driver licence disqualification. every day is the bloody same. Anyway i actually decided to give up trying till life begins to change a little. I stopped doing WBTB but continued with lucid living as much as i can remember. Anyway on the 29th i had a DILD and i awoke from it once and successfully re-entered it. It was the longest lucid dream i have had so far, i even saw myself in the bathroom mirror and.i felt so real it was awesome. I looked at myself and said. “I Love and accept myself. I love you”, in an attempt at helping myself love myself more in waking life. Nothing seemed to change tho. I also learnt better techniques to stabilize the dream.
Giving up made me let all my attachment go. I Must have been trying too hard.

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@surrendertolove89:

If you want to love yourself more in real dream, practicing in a dream is good, but you can’t get out of practicing it in your daily waking life.

Why not incubate a dream that could give you information about how to do this? Or, simply honor your lucid dream by daily looking in the mirror and practicing an unconditional acceptance of yourself.

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Thanks dreamosis, you are so right. I guess i was expecting a miracle to happen thru being lucid cause i wouldn’t be battling against my ego mind that believes the opposite! How often do i truely love and accept myself in daily life of look in the mirror n say it? Rarely ever if at all. If i do look at myself i am usually checking to see if i can give myself my own tick of approval before i go out the door or ill pick a flaw on my face and focus on it. sad but true, i actually do this unconsciously and its trippin me out as i write this cause i am rarely aware i even do this. Ok I’m in definite need to change my thoughts when i look in the mirror! ! The dream world and ‘real life’ are both dream worlds and reflect each other. So i understand how i cannot change one without changing the other.
I think ill try a different approach…like ask to incubate a certain dream to help with this specific thing…plus start changing thoughts in daily life.

:smile: Cheers

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It seems that you have a perfect place for practicing meditation surrendertolove89. If your property is big and if you have a space for yourself you can practice all kinds of meditation.

I know isolation can’t help in any way but try to make it work for you, don’t fight it.

True lucid dreams can change you very much. It’s not about how long your LD is it’s about what you can do in the time you got. Everybody experiences the dreams differently so I’m not gonna say what kind of your experience was because you can only “judge” that.

Some use dreams for fun, experiencing new awesome things and I have nothing against but I think that one grows with time and starts to see that dreams are much more powerful tool then just a source of fun. You are growing too, I’m not gonna say spiritually or something similar, your way of looking on things like that is not mine concern but I will say that you grow as a person as conscious being and that’s cool. So when you do find yourself in a dream and when you do try to work on your higher being be patient.

I’ve noticed that sometimes lucidity and it’s benefits comes in very different ways that we initially imagine them. So even if you are lucid let the dream and your subconscious mind guide you in the experience. Give yourself in the hands of the dream and you will be taken to the place where you need to be. In that “place” you can start to work on your “problems”. It doesn’t need to be a “place” place it can be a emotional state or a person in front of you. The thing is that you need to recognize it so again meditation comes in handy.

Through the state of meditating you can prepare yourself to recognize this state/place you need.

From my own experience I can give a example which you may or may not understand because like I said dreams are very personal and to a dreamer they make perfect sense when to the observer they may look like nothing truly important.

So this was a very special dream to me, well there were 2 dreams to be exact.
First one begin as a FA and I realized that I’m in a dream(I’m not gonna go into too much details now). I flew immediately through my bedroom window and I was outside hovering above my backyard. Everything was exactly as it is in physical life. No question about it. Only difference was that I felt more connected to this dream world then physical, colors were so vibrant, beautiful, warm it was just a place to stay, you know? So I’m still hovering and looking on the road(I live on the main road with pretty much traffic) and the houses and everything is right.

I’m thinking how everything looks right and I’m comparing it to physical world completely aware that I’m in my bed sleeping and hovering in this completely the same world simultaneously. This thought me that dream world and physical world are more connected then I thought previously. And how they are connected?! Through me, through the dreamer.

Next thing I decided is to fly down the road, toward first crossroads in the street. Looking left, then right all the houses were as they are in physical world and then on the crossroads a big garbage truck was turning toward me and I decided to crush in him just for seeing what’s going to happened next.

In the moment of the impact everything went black. For that moment I didn’t know if I’m in the dream or in my bed with eyes shut. But next scene made me sure that I’m still in a dream. I was on the beach with few people laying on beach chairs and looking at the sun. Everything was so calm. Sun was so close so big that I couldn’t believe. After some time the started to pulsate. This waves of energy was coming from the Sun outwards. With each and every new wave I would feel more complete person, infinite feelings of joy, love, happiness and understanding.

Next thing I know - I’m wide awake. I just couldn’t believe what kind of experience I had. The second dream I think was the representation on what’s “next”.

Here’s also the recreation of the dream in the photoshop, this is the closest I could do it: Click!

So this was my experience which lasted not longer then 5 minutes but left and unimaginable impact…