I hope the topic of this thread isn’t met with disappointment or anything, but I was just posting in the Epiphanies thread and touched on something I had in mind for a week or so and decided to go for it.
I’ve had and have self-esteem issues for a while, and I’m sort of at the point where it’s tough to tell if I want good things for myself. Of course I don’t think I should be this way, but it’s sort of my way of late and I hoped through LDing I would have some breakthroughs and want better things for myself. But it’s hard to motivate for LDs and have the clarity to have LDs when you don’t think much of yourself. So you have trouble LDing, you’re self-confidence goes down, you hear about how LDing can reshape your image of yourself but you don’t have LDs or the ones you have are few, short and somewhat lackluster (my case).
I guess I just wanted to call out the issue of low self-esteem/feeling unworthy to have LDs, because it has hampered my potential some. I’m sure all viewpoints will be beneficial and I thank you all for reading.
I’m sorry you aren’t feeling so great. LDing (and just plain life) should never make anyone feel like they aren’t good enough. You deserve good things, whether you want them or not.
As for LD-ing, I can see why low self esteem can make it harder. I’ve never experienced it, but this is just what I think.
aye. thanks for the well-wish. typing up the thread made me feel a good bit better, it just seemed/s like this could be a real issue and has been for me, so getting it out there is part of the process i s’pose. thanks puffy.
Primatech, don’t let it get the best of you. We all have our ups and downs.
As for LD’ing, what are you having difficult with? We’d be more than happy to help you! Just because you can’t get it right away doesn’t mean you won’t.
Feel free to PM me or post in here. I’d like to see you achieve your goal.
yes, don’t worry you’ll have them too ! I have also this idea of a quest for myself. I don’t have a big bad self-esteem but sometimes I feel like a part of me wants to hurt me, even if I don’t understand it. I also blush a lot when I speak in front of others, even friends or family.
I am slowly using LD to create characters representing parts of who I am, and I have goals to meet them in the next LD and discuss some important issues such as blushing or other thing about how to have a better confidence in yourself (because I believe the answer is inside everyone of us).
I also found myself feeling really good after having a LD and knowing that not a lot of people know or experience it, so it also gave me confidence, because of this when I feel stupid for example, I sometime think about this and it helps me remembering that I’m good at things when I put some efforts in doing them
The thing is to always analyze, sometime to take a break, but never give up. We can all tell you you will have one, if you keep remembering that this is what you want each time you go to bed !
Rahtez, Colors, thank you A TON. Hearing from you guys, Puffy as well, helps me put stuff in perspective. I think the biggest change since I started this thread, is now I’m just like, big deal, maybe I don’t have to like 100% of myself 100% of the time. I’m more ready for it now, and I enjoy the fact that it doesn’t (and in a way can’t) get to me in the same way anymore.
It’s not that I have never had LDs, I’ve had 2 periods in my life where I’ve had a decent amount of them, it’s that I feel like part of me was wanting to fail. And I don’t want to fail. I guess my method is to put the work in and expect results, instead of wanting them so much. I don’t know if this is bad/incomplete? I think I want them, but have a hard time admitting that I want them. Ahh, the wonders of life and the mind. Ok, maybe that’s what I’m having trouble with, so here it is: Yes, I want to lucid dream.
I just wanna say…because I posted this topic…that I worked out some issues that were really weighing me down, and I talked to one person in particular who I was making unhappy because of it…and I feel infinitely better.
I think LDing was taking a back seat, as well as many other things in my life, but I really feel happier than I have in years, maybe ever. Thank you to everyone for your kind support.
LDing like anything else comes down to doing the research to find the optimal techniques and then the hard part, consistently working hard. You have to do reality checks, practice prospective memory, record all your dreams, practice being aware after each dream so you can memorize it at the least, if not write it down or audio record it. All of these things each day.
As for not liking yourself, you can’t take life too personally. You are who you are, if you want to make a change work at it. All you can do is try your best.
typing up the thread made me feel a good bit better, it just seemed/s like this could be a real issue and has been for me, so getting it out there is part of the process i s’pose. thanks puffy. 
when I feel stupid for example, I sometime think about this and it helps me remembering that I’m good at things when I put some efforts in doing them