Hello and welcome to LD4all, @OliverM
Rebecca’s first sentence is the core principle to make your lucid dreams enjoyable: believe.
If you try to force your way through the dream, it will often not quite work. I’ve had many such experiences myself. Lucid dreaming doesn’t really mean you will be in full control. It means access to consciousness. Yet your dream is still built by your subconscious (SC). If you want to do anything in your dream, your SC has to let you. So you need to negotiate.
Now if try to force your ambitions in the dream, it’s like telling your SC at gunpoint: “let me fly!“. Unsurprisingly it doesn’t respond well to threats and commands like this. And you SC does not answer to your conscious mind, it’s the other way around in fact! But the good points are that
- your SC is very open for peaceful negotiation, especially inside dreams
- your SC is still part of you, it’s not your bully neighbour or somebody hostile like that
So, how to practically use this for anything? Well, instead of trying to bend the dream to your desire, try to incorporate your ambitions into the dream. Again Rebecca gave some good examples like believing your an angel and of course angels can fly. Or that you can jump really high and this is practically flying, isn’t it?
Be nice to your dream and your dream will be nice to you. Because your dreams are a representation of your SC. The better friends your become with it, the more it will let you do. It may still have a bad day sometimes it really want you to listen to it instead of it listening to you, but you can definitely work that out. I think it’s important to also highlight that you can and should work on this in waking life, too. Positive affirmation that Rebecca already mentioned is a very good tool.