I am a 34 yr old well adjusted Australian and educated woman! I have a recurring dream where I reunite with an ex partner, someone who used to hurt me quite badly. Even to the bitter end we loved each other but to the point that we could not be together if that makes sense. In my dream , I meet with him but it is at his funeral and he does not know thatthe is dead - I am walking around a room where there are pictures representing parts of his life and I go through parts of his life with him. All the time we are talking he does not remember we were together, only that i am someone who seems to know him , but he is warm and loving & I am crying so hard I can’t stop.He knows I am upset , but can’t work out why but still he is warm and it made me feel so melancholy about the love we used to share. All i remember after that is that I continued to cry and he stroked my head and said it would all be alright wandered off. We were soul mates , he and I , in every way , but it just could not be. I am now with someone who I love very much and who treats me beautifully and I would not trade my lfe with him to go back to my ex even if he wanted me to . I dream about him often and I always wake up very ,melancholy, and I am even in tears as I write this post. l love my life and my man but the ex is still in my skin in a way I cannot explain. He did some awful things to me which I will never understand and I can’t understand why this makes me so deeply sad after 4 years
/me hugs bexta 
welcome to LD4all
if it was my dream, the funeral would be the putting to rest of the “dead” good parts of the relationship … since the bad things had destroyed the hope of a happy life together.
four years is still a very short time and it does take us time to work through lost and grief.
PS I’m glad you have found happiness now 
Welcome to LD4all, bexta. 
I don’t think that I can interpret your dream, but I am glad that you have a good person know.
I hope that you feel better about your ex. As Moogle said, it takes a long time to go through lost and grief.