Short LD´s Id ont want this!!!

The first time i thought its normal but my lds going to be shorter and shorter. At first it was by sexual, then by sexual thoughts, then when i just want to think about sex (yes yes i know i know^^) and NOW, everytime Im going to be lucid i havent a clear vision, like my eyes were glued. I cant go through walls, just this morning, and wake aftert i think “I hope I dont wake up”. I troied wuth sugestion in dream “A clear vision please” -worked “Im going to not wake up” - wake up.

Can you give me some tips, i mean, is it why i think i can wake up or, do you know other reasons. And whats this with the unclear vision. Can this be bec. i havent wrote my DJ for longer time??? Pls help me

Sex is a tricky thing for lucid dreams, it is generally an exciting and passionable thing; which tends to make it a challenge in dreams because if you get to excited or passionate you will wake up. As such if you’re going to think about/have sex you have to be sure you stay very even emotionally.

As far as other ways to stop waking up - if the dream starts to fade or you realize your waking up try something like spinning or hand rubbing. The key is to focus on the sensations with each. Really feel your hands rubbing together, the friction, the heat etc. This will usually stablize the dream and allow you to remain lucid.

Maybe it’s what you suspect, that you associate sex with waking up. It’s hard to know for sure.

In the dream, try not suggesting but demanding what you want. If you want clear vision, use an authorative voice and demand clear vision. Remember that YOU are in charge! Also, instead of saying that you will not wake up, try something that does not focus on the waking up part. Maybe something like Stability or vividness. When you think about waking up you start to expect it to happen, you should focus on the dream instead.

Excellent point, I couldn’t agree more.

Having that command and authority really helps you control yours. After all its your dream and as such is totally controllable, but you have to believe and know you can control it.

Hmm okay I dont get emotional i try to stay calm but nothing, I will try rubbing hands the next LD. Thx for the answers. And this suggesting works with everything (I had a clear vision, then I thought hope i dont wake up and na you know^^) but not with waking up.