AHH! Sex dreams! Oh, is there no escape?!?!

Quest for Lucidity
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I know the subject doesn’t make sense :tongue: why would anybody want to escape? :content: but here’s my problem… late in the morning is when I have the best dream recall and usually become lucid. for the past two weeks or so though, I don’t dream of anything except sex. If I become lucid during these dreams, I usually wake up, which from what I’ve read from other people on here is pretty common. it’s rather annoying :tongue: so anyway, for the past two weeks or so, I haven’t been able to accomplish anything worth noting while lucid, nor have I been lucid for long. I don’t know if there’s any way to remedy this but I thought I’d check.

Being 16 sucks.

I need a girlfriend.

…ugh.

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Just make sure/try to have a clear MILD with clear intentions. Dont even think of… such things other… while going to bed. If you’re already doing this, try thinking of such things other, maybe it will get it out :silent:

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oh i know isn’t that horrible you wake up and you say"yes" and then you realize “hey that was a good dream, dream, wait, noooooooooo…”

and then you cry yourself back to sleep hoping that you can dream something about giant teddy bears who can comfort you in your time of dispair.

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no you don’t, you need to read The Multi-Orgasmic Man by mantak chia so you can learn how to transform all that abundant sexual energy you have into something… well… useful

pick up a copy at your local bookstore :yinyang:

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It’ll probally go away after a while?

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no it won’t

i’m 18, still going through it

i guess i started LDing and sexing in dream a lot at 16-17

and I’ll tell you, it’s a message, I’m not sure what it means, but

  1. you have excess sexual energy
  2. you need to get rid of it, either by trying to lose some interest in sex (it is possible to look at girls and not get horny and to have a nonexistant sex drive for a few days, though I’m not sure how) or by whacking it.
  3. sex is rather … umm… it’s like posessions… it’s shallow on the surface, you want more and more and more and more… it wont’ necessarily mean anything to you at all unless it’s accompanied by love… so it’s kind of like a drug too.

so you are seeing in dream that you are too fixated with sex, and you are getting annoyed with it… there isn’t an easy solution, if you’re horny it means you need to get rid of that energy, dreaming isn’t the best way though… masturbation can help, but it can make things worse…

I don’t know, eventually you’ll be able to balance it out and not hae so much of it at all… but it’s hard, I think it’s fairly normal for sex to consume and ruin your LDs, my solution is to set a goal of only one sexual LD per week (or something like that) but if you have sexual NDs that’s fine.

I usually have 3-4 a week… it’s not too bad, I know when there are better things I could be doing, but if I am satisifed with my dreams for the day I might WILD into a nice pointless sex dream

all things in moderation, even moderation, is the key.

and it’s easier said than done, but you can do it.

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Well, I’m 15 (and nearly 16) and I very rarely get any dreams about sex. Like, once every three months or summit…

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I find it odd (I’m 16) that I have quite a few sex NDs, but anytime I’ve been lucid (twice lol) it’s been the farthest thing from my mind.

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They say 17-23 is your sexual peak… so you’ll probably go through it till your 30 unfortunately. I’m 18… still have the desire.

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sri yukteswar, who’s apprentice was paramhansa yogananda, said one thing when it came to it: willpower

its possible awake, which carries over to dreams

Sun Simiao from Prescriptions worth a thousand ounces of gold, 7th century, says (paraphrasing) in youth dao is not understood, in old age it is too late.

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I have the desire too, and I’m 26. But I don’t get that many sex dreams for some reason.

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nod.

lol… uhh, I’m not sure how either… I’ve tried:P

lol, I’m one step ahead of ya :content:

yes. I know what you’re talking about. :tongue:

I think I’ll try this tonight. I didn’t have any DR at all last night, I only slept about 5 hours. so hopefully I’ll have some nice long dream periods tonight… seems to work that way for me.

… :rofl: haha good one!

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on the topic of sex dreams, like only bin getting into LDing lately, and ugh like if u blow your load in the dream u blow your load in real life? like ugh cmon guys sif u havnt, lol yay for wet dreams. ugh i only remembered one of the dreams and, yeah was to do with sex n shit. so im guessin iy happens?

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Actually no. There have even been experiments done on this.

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i luv sex dreams, there the best dreams part from lucids but wow a lucid sex dream now thats wat i want

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that’s not right monitor, i’ve ejaculated in a LD and had to change my sheets many a time. i personally only remember having ejaculated once in an LD and actually not have done it in waking life… but by the same token i’ve also urinated in NDs and woke up and my bed was quite dry shrug

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Granted it can happen, but I think what he was asking is if it necessarily would happen IRL if you did it in the dream. But it could go either way.

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i know we have several sex topics but i like shortness and simplicity so i’ll ask in here

do you guys have problems with the anatomy of the opposite sex in your dreams? If I’m in an ND sometimes it’s fine but like, if I try to have sex in an LD, I’ll like think of an image of a girl, maybe even of a porn picture to try and help instill realism, but like, the girls won’t stay that way, they don’t look real at all, anything from being tiny to like, not having the right parts down there, to looking like a weird hybrid of me and a woman…

and they are never consistant… I know what they should look like while I’m dreaming, but I can’t get them to look that way… I try all the tricks… I can morph them to be correct for a moment but then they aren’t right a second or two later.

I don’t get it, save to say I’m a virgin and have not seen any live naked girls, just all the nice tv and internet mainly…

but… this just isnt’ right, I know, based upon countless pictures and real women observed in real life, more or less what the female body should look like, but yet, often times, it is horribly wrong.

I don’t know if it could be some sort of message about my “sex life” (as if i had one) or what… I don’t know… does anyone else know what I"m talking about or have reasonable suggestiosn on how to remedy it? I’ve tried telling them how to look.

They are like zombies… they won’t move or anything either unless I guide them in my mind step by step… they are lifeless… during the sex and all.

Maybe I need to convince myself they are real, maybe by thinking they aren’t real that makes them more likely to be dysfunctional and lifeless.

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I think you’re onto something there. You asked for advice and probably from other guys, but I’ll give my two cents as well. :tongue:

I think this is probably very common. I mean, first of all, it’s sex. Doesn’t that make you incredibly excited in the dream? That makes it hard to concentrate too well on your dream or the elements therein. Also I’ve found that if I stay in one place for too long, things start to fade on me and I can’t get a grip on the dream. Second, your DCs probably don’t seem very realistic to you (like you said above). You know you’re dreaming, so your perception of other people is different. Maybe if you could convince yourself that they were MORE real, you would have a more concrete basis of what they look and act like. Third, you’ve never had sex before, so there you go. Sure, you know what it’s all about, but because you don’t have first-hand experience, it makes sense that your situation would NOT go according to plan. I think if you have had sex before, your dreams might not be like this so much. (But that’s just a hunch. I don’t presume to know all that much in this area either.)

I think you just should have a discussion with your DC women before trying to get in their pants. You might find things work out better and that they appear more “real” or whatever. Considering all the LDs you have, I’d think you’d have plenty of opportunities to work out this problem. The only other thing I can suggest is that you just don’t think about what’s wrong with them because it might perpetuate that mind-set. Maybe your worrying is only making this situation predictable for OTHER LDs.

Hope some of that helped. It is all pure assumption and I have no real experience in my own LDs, but that’s all I can give. Maybe just believing something will work is enough to remedy your problem, though.

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It did help, thanks…

“I think this is probably very common. I mean, first of all, it’s sex. Doesn’t that make you incredibly excited in the dream?”

Nope… not any more… it isn’t particularly great feeling either… so I mean… no orgasms or anything, usually… if I have them they feel kind of fake, it is some form of release of sexual tension I think though, maybe.

Talking to them, well, if I feel a connection to a girl DC I don’t usually want to have sex with her, because I guess sex is kind of a cheap thing to me (since i’ll do just about any dc in sight, sometimes) so it’s like, if the DC and I are having a good time I want to do something more worthwhile and “wholesome” like flying or cuddling or something… sometimes if there is time in the dream left we have sex at the end (and the one time I did that it was really crappy unreal sex)

I think I should just ask to speak to my subconscious and ask it to work on making the dream characters more realistic, dynamic (personality wise), and less reactive my thoughts and expectations, so that they dont’ morph on me against my will.

Telling it that kind of worked at getting it to make guns slightly realer…

at any rate… I have a theory that maybe my sex chakra is screwed up and only halfway active… hmm… but I don’t want excess sexual tension throughout the day so I’m not sure if trying to open it is a good idea.

I’m not sure I believe in chakras either but I certainly feel energy sensations in them if I work on them.