In real life, im a really shy person (self conscious, low self confidence, etc…). If I were to start lucid dreaming, and start socializing with people in my dreams, would this help me with my social life at all…? Could the scenarios i create in my dreams be real enough so that everything I learn in my dreams apply to real life?
i am also a bit shy in RL…that could work …good idea…somthing a bit similar to this is called to cure phobias i think (if you are afraid of dogs you first have to imagine a dog nd then when the fear starts to come you take a deep relaxing breath) sorry ive gotten a bit carried away 
It’s a good training ground for it. A pessimist might think that since you know DC’s are not real people, it won’t be so effective for getting used to talking to real people.
But the optimist will think that it’s of little concern, because the reactions from the DCs may well be the same as real peoples. And it will be a training ground in changing your perspective. Not just facing your fear, but realising that the reactions of the real people are just some insignificant happenings that come and go. And it’s nothing to be concerned about. Easier said than done, but practising on DCs is good.
I once spoke to a friend of mine that was good in lucid dreaming and also shy in RL. Do you ever have those akward moments where you don’t know anything to say and the conversation dies? He used to reconstruct those moments in his dreams and try different approaches to the DC’s to see how they would react. So in time he learned how to react in different situations and i have to say it worked good for him.
I’ve been walking around with the same idea! I’m pretty shy around people I don’t know, so I wondered if I could sort of “practice” on DC’s I’ve never met before…
Lol, I hope my subconscious is creative enough to conjure up all those never-met-before DC’s for me
Yes it could. You can use your dreams to help you with many things in life.
Heck some of the best inventions or art adn many others was from people dreaming and bringing it to RL.
No, I think not.
LD’s are about control and expectation. There are no others in dreams. Everything you see is a reflection of your own Self.
The realness of DC’S in LD’s can never compete with the realness of actual people.
For instance, if you tell a joke to your dreamfriends in an LD and you expect them to laugh, they will… If you are afraid that they won’t laugh, the chance is big that they won’t.
But if you create some kind of reality in your dreams and you can train your social skills, please let me know.
DutchThor, if you mean this won’t work because the reactions from the DC’s don’t necessarily correspond the reaction of real people, then I agree. You should not practise on DC’s and then expect real people to react in the same way. But you should reflect on their reaction and try to determine if it was realistic.
However I don’t think it was the point to learn how others react, but to learn how to react yourself in a given situation. To practise talking with strangers until you feel comfortable with it. And to find out how to think of something to say when the conversation dies.
A dream is the next best thing to practising on real strangers, and you don’t run the risk of embarassing yourself at all.
When you think good about yourself, others will see you better. So practising in LD could help. You will be less shy and when you try to contact real people you will better about yourself. They will react better.
When you ask DC’s questions and do things on a lucid dream. You concentrate on the action more than the reaction.
Well DC’s are not like real people at all.
After thinking about it some more, I think that dreams can be benifical. You can practise speaking for large audiences for instance.
But it can only help when you really believe that it can be befeficial and that dreams are a good practise ground…
I’m a very shy person in RL. I spent almost all of last summer’s LD’s fixing the problem by socializing with any random DC I could. Although I’m still pretty shy, it did help tremendously. It helped me build up courage to be more extroverted at school and talk to more people.
I’d say in 2 more years (unless I practice more) my shyness will be gone.
I don’t think that realness has anything to interact with people. Its just about getting comfortable talking to people just like Wyvern said.
So the thing is Qwertyftc123, You can do anything you want to with your dreams as long as you believe. Don’t let doubt hold you back.
Many examples of training your social skills in LD’s have been given in LaBerge or Garfield, especially about shyness. It has nothing to do with the DC’s being real or not, it’s just about modifying your reaction and emotion when facing some social situations. Now, this doesn’t mean at all that the dream scenarios will exactly apply in real life, but you’ll modify your reactions concerning what could happen. And with a more constructive state of mind, you’re likely to have better results.
lucid dreaming opens your mind YO
Yes. Your dreams and real life have very much to do with each other.
this sounds like a great idea in theory, and i’d love to give it a try, once i get good ad LDing
I’m rather shy in particular around new poeple and girls 
so i know what I’ll be practicing LOL
need to build more confidence in talking to people, in particular girls
Well, I can say just this much…
I am also quite shy around strangers. So LDing was a welcome opportunity to just attempt to do the weirdest stuff when meeting “strangers” (DCs) - after all, what did I have to lose? You talk to a DC (or poke their nose 
) and they may react in a strange way or even enjoy it. 
Anyway, you can just move on.
DCs may be just a part of your mind, but as far as I am concerned they look like people and act like people (sometimes a bit odd sort of people) and most importantly I react to them like I would when meeting people (not to say I’d always try the same things though 
).
This has actually helped me a lot, mainly because I realized that as long as you’re civil and don’t offend anyone, you can get away without losing anything by trying. I am not as anxious anymore around people. I’m not afraid to ask. I am able to hold eye contact. I am more sensitive to body language and expressions, if not only because I do not look to the ground when talking to people anymore.
Of course, there were other factors as well, but LDs sure are a nice proving ground.
As for conversations - I am not good at them and I cannot really practice them with DCs since those in my dreams mostly talk nonsense (there are exceptions - I think some explained the secrets of the universe to me but I couldn’t remember when I woke up 
).
But I also am not sure if I like them. I mean, I like discussions, but still consider conversations mostly a waste of time. I probably will not get any better at it until that changes. 
I agree most conversations are pretty useless. All they are are just exchanging opinions on things, but that’s the thing, although they’re useless, they’re generally fun and a way of expressing your thoughts with other people.
Yes.
but I think dreams can be more useful than that.
These kind of things should be treated differently.
affirmations?..
You can practice anything in a dream. I have a friend who learned how to perform a backflip inside a dream.