For the past month now, I have been trying to obtain lucidity. I have been reading the information on this website and forums, along with other sites, almost nightly usually 15 or 20 minutes before I go to bed. However, nothing seems to be working.
Every night I have been going to sleep performing MILD, thinking the exact words “the next time I’m dreaming, I’ll remember that I’m dreaming,” additionally reminding myself to wake up after my dreams so that I can remember them and perform the WBTB technique. My dream recall has improved ever since starting this, and I am usually able to recall at least one dream a night now compared to maybe one a week from before; and I am usually waking up one to two times a night now, usually once around 3 AM or so and once right before my alarm clock goes off. However, I’ve still failed to have a single lucid dream.
One thing that’s been particularly frustrating is that I’ve been missing some extremely obvious signs that I’m dreaming. Perhaps the worst of these was a few weeks ago, when I dreamed that I went down to the local bookstore to purchase a book. That book was “Exploring the World of Lucid Dreaming.” The cashier even asked me if I had “had one” yet as she was ringing up the book, to which I replied “nope.” Also, on several occasions I have had false awakenings where I discussed how odd the dream I just had was with others, only to wake up again.
After a few instances of these, I realized that I was being lazy and forgetting to perform reality checks during the day, and that maybe this was the reason for my lack of LD’s, so I made sure to start performing them often, particularly when I heard or saw anything particularly odd or anything dream-related. Yet after a week or so of performing reality checks often I still haven’t had a lucid dream.
Is there anything that I’m doing wrong, or maybe some crucial step that I’m forgetting? I know that there’s no real “secret” to lucidity, and that it can take months just to have a single LD. However, the fact that I’m starting to actually dream about becoming lucid, without actually becoming lucid, makes me think that I’m very close, yet still doing something wrong.